Jesus’ answers to the three would-be followers sound harsh. Is it wrong to want to bury your father, or say goodbye to your family? Jesus is not against love for family. He is talking about the moment when following him becomes something for later, once other things are settled.
He has just set his face towards Jerusalem. He knows what is waiting there, and he does not look back. The people who offer to follow him want to, but each has a condition: wherever you go, but first let me. Jesus says the kingdom cannot be the second thing on the list.
Most of us have a “first let me”. First let me finish my studies, get settled, sort out the house. These are good things. But there is no ideal moment to start following Jesus, and this Gospel says the moment is now. Put your hand to the plough, and keep your eyes on the furrow ahead.